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Friday, 24 September 2010

Christian Home

Proverbs 22:6, Proverbs 29:17, Ephesians 5:22-26, Ephesians 6:1-6, Colossians 3:18, Colossians 4:1, 1st Peter 3:6, 1st John 4:7.

A christian home is a place where husband and wife live with their children and sometimes without children. A christian home is where Bible is loved and taught, where the master's will is sought, where the husband/father as the head of the home is true and strong; where the wife/mother is loving, caring and submissive; where the children are led to know Christ; where the family altar fire burns and glows; where the Lord is honoured and served; where the children obey their parents. Every couple should desire a Christian home.

After wedding, husband and wife begin to live together as one in peace, harmony and unity. They need wisdom, understanding, perseverance and unconditional love for the home to stand. God should be number one in such a home; things must be done together, decision must be taken together and there should be no room for falsehood. Since a home is made of members and each member has roles to play.

I will highlight some of the roles of each member:

The husband, also as father and as head (Ephesians 5:23): he is the physical head of the family. He should love his wife as Jesus loves the church. (Ephesian 5:25). Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself to it. 1st Peter 3:7. Ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered. Love your wife as you love your own body and love unconditionally. Ephesians 5:28-29.

As a father (Ephesians 6:4); ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath but bring them up in the fear of the Lord. As a master, if you have servants (Corinthians 4:1): give unto your servants that which is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a master in heaven. Do not maltreat your servants, pay their wages on time.

Ephesians 5:22-25. Submit yourself unto your own husband as unto the Lord; therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Wives, submit yourself unto your own husband, as it is fit in the Lord (1 Peter 3:6a) even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord, whose daughters ye are (Prov 4:1). Every wise woman buildeth her house but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. So be a wise woman. You should do your husband good not evil. If you are submissive and obedient, your husband will have confidence in you.

A wife is a mother to her children, boosts the morale of her children and develops intimacy with them. She also plays the role of a counselor to them. She manages the family finances, supervises the growth of her children. She speaks with wisdom, she is not idle; she has self control and fears the Lord. When you are loaded with all these good virtues, you are priceless.

It is the responsibility of parents to train up their children in the way of the Lord so that when they are old, they will not depart from it: correct them, and they shall give thee rest and give delight unto your soul.

Ephesians 6:1-3. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise, that it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth. (Colossians 3:18).

Children should note this, that disobedience and dishonouring parents are not of God. Obey elders as you do to your parents, give respect to them and obey the laws and rules of the land as well. Be a source of joy to your parents. You are part of the success story of a home. So play your own part. Do not forget that whatever you sow, you shall reap. A child today is a mother or father tomorrow. Be a kingdom child. You are not a product of mistake but a child of destiny.

Ephesians 6:5-6). Servants/stewards are to be obedient to their masters. Do your work as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart. Avoid eye service and note that whatsoever good thing you do, the same you will receive of the Lord. A servant today may become a master tomorrow.

Every member in the home must show love all the time. 1 John 4:7 - Beloved, let us love one another for love is of God, and every one that loveth is born of God and knoweth God.

In case there is a delay of fruit of the womb, it may be a test of your faith. But do not forget Sarah and Hannah had same and God eventually opened their wombs. Hannah prayed, so you too can do same. In case the children are of the same sex, you should not hold your spouse responsible. God gives what you need. Be grateful to Him for the gift. The most important thing is to bring them up in the way of the Lord.

As you grow old as husband and wife, there will be changes due to old age. Beauty will be fading, strength of the man or woman wanes with time, appetite changes considerably, sexual excitement may reduce, children will be moving out to start their own family life. You should be prepared to adapt to the changes. A happy christian home is a product of the contribution of all the members of the family. Play your own part very well.

The home should be a place of shelter for the members of the family, where each member will love and be willing to come back to. Sow the seed of prayer into your life and that of the children. Control the affairs of your home with prayers.

May the Lord grant you the grace to love as Jesus loves the church. May He endow you with wisdom and knowledge you need to be able to accommodate other members to build a truly Christian home in Jesus name. Amen

Monday, 13 September 2010

Christian Marriage

Part B Relationship In Marriage

Gen 2:24, Gen 24:53-54, Heb 13:4, 1 John 4:11

Part A of this sermon ended with discussion on courtship while this part B examines relationship in marriage. As you get along with courtship don't relax, avoid spiritual laziness, still pray and seek the face of the Lord. Avoid pre-marital sex, don't allow it to erode your marriage. Don't allow sin to hinder it. I believe God is already guiding you as discussed in part A. Spend your bachelorhood or spinsterhood in glorifying God.

Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled, Heb 13:4. It is the responsibility of a man in particular to have a sound source of livelihood. For ladies, don't be too desperate to bear the title "Mrs". You need the wisdom of God at each step.

The courtship period is to study each other very well. You can not depend on your own intelligence. You need the wisdom of God to overcome the challenges. The key to a successful marriage is love. 1 John 4:11. "Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another". Delving into it without God is testament to failure, what follows courtship are introduction, engagement and wedding. There will be exchange of gifts from groom's and bride's family. But it has to be done in moderation and in proportion. Gen 24:53, Gen 43:11. Culture and customs that are contrary to the Holy Scriptures must be discarded. Don't overspend, don't borrow and dress moderately. For the wedding, you need to file a notice. There should be no secrecy about it. Parents of both partners, the church and your pastors must be involved. Wedding is for one day, there could be merry making. Gen 24:54 "And they eat and drink, he and the men that were with him, and tarried all night". Bride's dress must be honourable to cover the vital parts of the body and so also ladies partaking in the wedding ceremony must dress well.

Marriage is for better for worse. Before the bride or groom says I do to the wedding vow, everything about each other must be considered. Our Lord has guaranteed us a blissful life in marriage when he pronounced blessing upon the first wedding Gen 1:28. It is until death do you part, no divorce. When you vow to cleave, Gen 2:24, to your spouse, it means you will not engage in any extra-marital relationship forthwith. Anything outside this brings shame and dishonour to the relationship. When the father or a representative of the father of the woman steps out to give away the woman over to the priest, it means under no circumstance should the parent give the bride to another man. When the priest as a representative of God hands over the woman (bride) to the man (groom), it means everything done at this point of solemnisation of marriage sacrament is awesome and sacred. Whatever God has joined together, let no man put asunder.

The wedding vow is taken, the certificate is signed at the priest pronounces them as husband and wife. The wedding blessings are pronounced and prayers are offered. After the wedding ceremony, the newly wed have the right to live together as husband and wife. A happily married minister can advice on how to live in harmony and peace to have a successful marriage. A marriage counselor should take them through sex education.

Marriage is sacred and awesome. It is your responsibility to make sure that your marriage is successful. Marriage relationship is superior to any other relationship. Ideally couple should live alone, they should not live with their parents. It is not ideal too, for parents or parents-in-law to live with couple. However, if a parent-in-law comes to help nurse a baby, it does not mean the parents should not be taken care of especially when they are sick. Matt 8:14-15. You should make provision for aged parents.

A partner should be able to adjust in the areas of language, food, clothing and greetings. However, any cultural heritage or custom that contradicts the christian principle of marriage should be utterly discarded. A woman should be respectful, amiable, generous, hospitable and caring to the members of the extended family. There must be communication between husband and wife. Talking with point and purpose is an essential ingredient of effective communication. Talking, listening and understanding are very important. Couple must be speaking the truth in love. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth to one another. You must avoid filthy language. Kind and persuasive words and loving sentences and phrases should come from couples. These include "thank you darling", "it shall be well with you", "I love you honey", "we shall make it in Jesus name", "I am sorry dear"- when you need to apologise. I suggest we do this or that should be heard in a christian home. Not command like you must do this or that. Don't forget that when you make a vow to cleave and become one, part of the husband's body belongs to the wife and part of the wife's body belongs to the husband. You should not deny yourself of the part.

For decision making, even though the husband is the head, the woman should be given an opportunity to have a say in matters affecting the entire family. As you get along in marriage, you will be discovering your weaknesses or your limitations but don't forget that only God is perfect and we are all working towards perfection. Help each other in prayers, study the word together and live it. A family that prays together lives and stays together. Have a family altar, grow and develop spiritually. Never you make your spouse feel inferior or inadequate. Bring up yourself to the desired level you want educationally, socially and spiritually. It is advisable you empower each other with guidance of Holy Spirit. Correct in love and appreciate the good things in each other.

All habits may not be discovered during courtship, hence you need love and understanding. E.g. snoring is a habit and you may not discover until you start to live and sleep together. Don't capitalise on each other's weakness.

To be able to live together happily and successfully you need love, understanding, tact, tolerance and perseverance. Each spouse needs to adjust physically, emotionally and psychologically.

May your marriage be blissful. May the Lord increase you in all size. May He grant you peace that passeth all understanding and prosper the work of your hand in Jesus name. Amen